Blog Privacy

I know I haven't put a post up here in a while, but I thought it was time I did.

You might notice we put a lot of information up on our blog about who we are, pictures, and "goings on". We are okay with that, since it's nothing really identifying or incriminating in the slightest. I know I have friends who feel differently than I do about that, and so they give their family member's code names, and I appreciate and respect that.

The honest fact of the matter is, the web isn't private. If you publish something on the web, everyone knows it. If you EVER put a picture up on the web, it's there forever. Knowing this, we never put anything up that we wouldn't be comfortable with the whole world seeing.

The flip side of this is we sometimes don't remember to blog about everything that ever happens every day. Things like Tyler learning to spell "Coke" on accident, Kaiden turning into a tiger and saying he's going to eat my car, or Addison giggling her first giggle for me sometimes slip between the cracks.

But, it also means I'm not posting pictures of my kids naked taking a dump in the toilet because I personally thought it was a good idea and letting the whole world into my bathroom in the process.

For that reason, we typically only blog about the main highlights of what happens in our household. We both have other blogs to vent about different things that don't fit here, but even then we show restraint. You wont find us going on about an ex-spouse that can't pay child support, or the fact that a kid was returned to us calling everything "stupid". To vent about such personal issues in such a public forum is unbelievably stupid (especially since Melissa and I both have to abide by child custody rules that state we would never disparage the other parent in a public setting, or where the child may experience it). It not only damages the child and threatens the stability of our child custody, but it would also make us look like people we aren't (in Tyler's words "stupid").

In the end, our family is bigger than we blog about here. There are the five of us, yes. But there are also others who influence how our children our raised (for better or worse). We do our best, but no one is immune to the lack of judgment of others.

No matter what, you take it, and you keep marching forward. And that is why we're parents.